Why i love having so many brothers and sisters!

Now when ever i get the age old question tell us something interested about yourself i freeze. IM BORING AF, what makes me special. Then *POP* i remember i’m the oldest sibling of 6. Yep 6. I have three younger brothers and two younger sisters.

I share my mum and dad with my two eldest brothers.
Just my mum with my youngest brother
Just my dad with my sisters.

Confused yet?
Well that’s just the tip of the iceberg from that there are, parents, grandparents, my aunt & uncle and their two boys all the way over in the USA, there’s the mountain of fake family aunties i have, godparents, distant cousins and friends who are basically family too. It’s a big circle of family and i wouldn’t have it any other way.

Some of my most treasured memories. No wait i scratch that, most of my treasured memories are with my dumb brothers. Who will hate me for writing about them like they are angels. They aren’t don’t be fooled. I mean they are pretty good guys now, but growing up, im sure they must have had a dislike for how much i made them watch my dance performances in the living room, or hop the laptop we all shared. I GOTTA CHANGE MY MSN NAME SO LET ME ON . OMG MY FRIEND JUST GOT A WEBCAM I NEED TO GO ON.

My sisters, i remember when they were born. I was so excited…FINALLY sisters. Do you even know how long i have waited for this?! The fact they have always been so much younger than me too is my favourite thing. I’ve always been a mature kid, growing up, well i grew up pretty fast. However, i didn’t realise this until my oldest sister was born. I remember thinking she was a little angel. I have to make sure this human is always happy. I mean i was only 12 at the time. Not the thoughts of a genius but i still think the same now. So important none the less.

Growing up i cant remember arguing with my brothers or sisters. Mainly because mum wouldn’t let us, but also because we were genuinely happy. We all had hobbies, we all filled our time playing together. It’s so easy to spend 2 hours in the garden when there’s 4 of you. It is however annoying when your brother jumps off the top of the swing set and mum takes the whole thing down thinking we’ll hurt ourself. Or when you’re practising your violin outside because the family cant stand (how bad) you play in the house.

We used to live by a field so we would often go to the field to play football together. At one point we all played for a team, so this was fun. I’m not gonna say who but some members of the family were obviously better than others *cough* Jonny and Ash *cough* but thats fine, Ben and I could always just stand in the goal and let them take pride in constantly scoring.

Growing up the oldest really makes you aware of how to treat people i think. I became very protective of them all. I still am. I like to know what they are all doing, i like to know how school is, how their jobs are. I like to know where they are going at the weekend, heck we even share drunk stories and dating advice when needed. Well i mean not with my under18 year old sisters. That would be bad news.

Perhaps, this would be one of my favourite things about all my siblings, were not very secretive. Or at least, they aren’t to me. We pretty much always share our lives with each other. I know if the going gets tough for me i can call Jonny and he’ll tell me to shake it off, he’ll tell me to man up and get over it, Ashley will let me talk and talk and talk as he plays on the xbox and agree with how shit it is, and Ben, ben will offer solutions and try to make everything better. They are the perfect array of Good cop/Bad cop.

I know I don’t usually post like this but I’m just so excited to go home soon and see my family that I thought NOw was the perfect time to publish this.

Thanks for reading

Danielle x

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How moving to a foreign country helped my anxiety.

When I first realised I was moving to another country where I didn’t speak the language, know anyone, have a job, have a place to live or any general idea about the country. Yes I think it’s fair to say… I was perhaps the most anxious I’d ever been.

Anxiety : noun

1. a feeling of worry, nervousness, or unease, typically about an imminent event or something with an uncertain outcome.

Worried? Nervous? Uneasy?

CHECK CHECK CHECK.

Oh boy, I thought. Am I about to make a huge mistake?

Well…now here’s a little spoiler alert.

I didn’t.

See, here’s the section where I could ramble on about how I overcame challenges. How I put myself forward, I jumped into a new lifestyle and without realising, all of these little accomplishments shifted my thought pattern. But to summarise that I’ll just say; Day by day, I became a little more comfortable with handling tasks that others find simple.

Living in Vietnam for Over 1 Year I have become familiar to not understanding everything and eventually my shoulders began to relax when I walked amongst new surroundings, faces and smells.

I began to accept that I won’t understand everything and give myself the acceptance and patience to slowly stop being afraid.

My Social Anxiety.

I have had to socialise more than ever. Yes that’s right I say I have HAD to. Not that I don’t want to…because I do, but not ALL the time. However it’s fact here, if you don’t go out, you wont meet many other humans who are over the age of 15 Vietnamese and not students in your day to day life. Having to actively go out and throw myself into new situations has now become easier, and from doing this I have come to find that, I usually give off a first impression that doesn’t reflect my personality at all. *HIGH 5 to all my other resting bitch face owners out there* which is something I obviously want to change.I try harder to let people in and not be so closed off. I’m working on it.

My academic anxiety

I started taking Vietnamese classes, throwing myself into learning a new skill has helped me dramatically. Something about reshaping and adding another language to my brain, refocusing my energy when amongst a group of people who speak a different native language has helped social occasions to feel less intimidating and more like a challenge or test, where I can see how much I do understand or recognise.

My career anxiety.

I gave myself the ability to show how I can handle leadership. Having to be in charge and take responsibility for a team in my current head teaching role, again, has helped my self journey evolve. I can’t shy away from problems or take a back seat. I’m expected to lead the way, and to show others how to perform. This for me has changed my entire outlook on my career anxiety. I am capable. I am powerful. I am allowed to speak up and voice my opinion.

So there we have it.

I hope you can understand how moving to Vietnam has helped my anxiety, Socially, Academically and Career-wise.

I wrote this in hopes that someone out there who is scared about moving may take comfort from my personal experience, and though I cannot guarantee the same, I hope you get the same results and feel comfortable enough to say ‘I’m going to try’

Thanks for reading.

Danielle Jade x

New Year…Same me?

So its 2018…Is it just me or did 2017 go by so fast?!
As always I completely took full advantage of pretending not to acknowledge its a new year* and create only one tiny resolution.
Honestly, i feel like making such a huge list of resolutions would be pointless for me, because I know all i’m setting myself up for then is spending the year anxious about the fact I am not achieving said silly resolutions, and wondering why i did this to myself, and who wants to witness that now?!
So instead I’ve set myself the simple goal ‘Keep Going!’
Now I’m aware this sounds completely generic and I bet there are 5000 quotes out there on many a fridge magnet that can tell me how to keep going and live like there’s no tomorrow love like…. BLAH BLAH BLAH , but I think the motivation I’m looking for isn’t one which hallmark can script.
In a way it’s a kind of acceptance with myself, to know whatever I choose so long as it keeps me smiling is the right choice. To keep in mind the obstacles i have overcome when challenged with new ones, and to remember that staying still isn’t failure, but to push through when i’m ready, Keep Going and try to avoid stepping/falling back as much as possible.

So if there is anyone else out there like myself, who doesn’t necessarily like making lists and lists of resolutions. Why don’t you join me in my goal to ‘Keep Going’

Let me know if you want to Keep Going and let’s become Motivation Buddies!
Thanks for reading,

Danielle Jade x

BONUS:
Here’s  New Years Pictures of my girl, my friends and I after champagne*

*Disclaimer: As much as i think NY is usually a massive FLOP. That doesn’t mean that i disagree with poppin’ a bottle come 12:00.

PEACEEEE.

Christmas movies to watch before this Christmas Day 🎄

So now it’s Christmas, well, it’s Christmas month! Though it sometimes doesn’t feel much like Christmas when you’re living in a country that may not necessarily celebrate Christmas and it isn’t drenched in obvious tokens honouring that holiday.

Sooooo what can you do in another country to make it feel like Christmas….

HELLO CHRISTMAS FILMS.

So here’s my favourite Christmas movies for you to watch (if you haven’t already)

1. Miracle on 34th Street : This film makes me feel like the most Christmassy person in the world, there’s something so beautiful about it that I just love.

2. Arthur Christmas : This animated movie is fun for the whole family! Now, I don’t even have children or any kids around me to pretend I’m watching this for, it’s just that good!

3. Home alone (First 3 ONLY) : A young boy left at home for Christmas,laying down traps to fight off burglars, I’m in…. The stunts in this movie make for good old slap-stick comedy and I for one WILL laugh every time. I will not however stand for any “home alones” after the 3rd one.

4. The grinch : Perhaps one of the funniest and most extravagant Christmas movies. The costumes, the rhyme, the sets…it’s such a great movie!

5. Meet me in st Louis : I don’t think I’ll ever get over how wonderful this movie is. I may be slightly biased because I’m such a Judy Garland fan but ‘boy next door’ is such a beautiful song.

Also honourable mentions go to: Edward Scossorhands, The Holiday & Love Actually though the list could go on and on and on…in fact, I’m going to go watch more now, and I’ll get back to you later in the month haha!

Leave a comment below with your favourite Christmas film🎄

Thanks for reading,

Danielle Jade

365 days in Vietnam

Hello everyone, today marks our one year anniversary in Vietnam or as we are choosing to call it our Vietnamaversary And what a ride it has been. So i’m going to share with you some of our highlights of this past year.


We’ve travelled to Hoi An , Ninh Binh, Bangkok, Chiang Mai, Pai, Koh Phangan, Ho Chi Minh and other wonderful places.


We’ve made some wonderful friends here.



(Spoiler two of these humans don’t live in Hanoi but hey, enjoy a group shot that makes me look like I have friends all the same)

We have both been promoted to headteachers at our English Centres and now have centres of our own.

We’ve started to speak the language. We take Vietnamese classes and actually understand how to have conversations now with the locals.

We have learnt how to drive scooters and brave the traffic of Hanoi.


(Naomi is way better than me and has a cooler helmet)

We’ve tried more new food dishes than i can even explain. The food here is so good.


I’ve learnt to love the ocean this past trip to Hoi An. I even woke up super early to go in and play with the waves.


My fear of thunder is slowly disappearing. The constant storms in Hanoi have somehow given me no choice but to learn to love the lightning and thunder.


At least once a week Naomi and I will find ourselves saying ‘We Live Here’ in awe of Hanoi. My happiness is higher than ever before and i wake up every day more excited.

 

Thanks for reading,

Danielle x

Long Journeys? You NEED to check out these podcasts ✈️ 

Ok so, whilst travelling around, i’ve become quite obsessed with Podcasts.

From Long-haul flights to short uber trips to work or even walking down the street.
Here’s a list of my favourite podcasts, that you need to check out:

LIGHT HEARTED FUN ;

  • Not Too Deep With Grace Helbig. (Now if you don’t know who Grace Helbig is, then do you even internet? ) This podcast is full of fun and nonsense. With some incredible guests it’s now hit 100 episodes. So check it out! (Roughly 1hour long)
  • My Dad wrote a porno ; Pretty self explanatory this one. A guys dad wrote a porno and now himself and two of his friends are going to read it out for our entertainment. It’s incredibly funny. (Usually 40 mins an episode)
  • Anna Faris is Unqualified . Now i must start this off by saying im obsessed with Anna Faris’s voice so this is perfect. The guests on this show are so good! Check out the Rachel Bloom and Aubrey Plaza ones for joke after joke. A fun podcast of interviews, story sharing and experience exchanging. Getting to hear from celebrities and questions that are more than ‘who are you wearing’ and without having a promo agenda, to me is so interesting and Anna has the perfect balance of nonsense to getting new and interesting content whilst keeping real AF.  (Roughly 30 mins long)


  • SOMEWHERE IN THE MIDDLE:

    Love and Radio ;
    Disclaimer: Im obsessed with this whole podcast series. They do a lot of interesting 30minute real-life stories and i cannot help but get attached to these peoples lives.

  • Episode – Deep Stealth Mode. The story of how a 3 year old boy asked to go back into his mommy’s tummy and come out a girl. Inspiring, brave and an honest outlook from the parent and 3 year old. This one ‘gave me all the feels. (30 Mins Long)
  • Episode – The living room. A story of how a woman’s neighbors who never closed their curtains make their way into her life. Well, kind of. It’s a very one sided yet very intimate relationship. As she observes this new young couple she becomes attached to their life without them even knowing. (25mins long)

A LITTLE INTENSE ;
Serial ; 

  • This podcast though guys… The whole series tells us about how a girl in high-school disappears, and her ex-boyfriend is convicted for her murder. He says he is innocent. Or he claims to remember that he is unsure of where he was during the incident of her death. We follow this case with the now podcast/investigator as they chat to him inside the prison and try to find new evidence on a case that seems anything but simple. (S1 30-45mins long an episode)

Ted Talks ; 

  • I’ll end with this one. I can’t pick my favourites and actually i don’t think TED TALKS are the kind of podcasts you need to choose a favourite. They alter based on my mood of the day and also, what i find exciting may not be the same. Yet, i encourage you to go onto the TED TALKS section of Podcasts. Find a topic you ARE interested in and educate yourself, open your mind and Listen. I promise you’ll not regret it. (Vary from 10 – 40 minutes long)Anyway, i hope you enjoy these podcasts!
    Please let me know your favourites in the comment so i can expand my current collection.

  • Thanks for reading, Danielle x

Why last nights girl gang chat made me fall in love  the blogging community even more 🌈💕

Now if you don’t already know the wonderful @dorkfaceblog runs a twitter chat on behalf of the @Thegirlganghq and it’s pretty damn good.
This week the topic was LGBTQ+ something that is obviously near and dear to myself.

As an active member of the community I was hesitant at first to see what kind of responses this chat was going to bring, I now see that I had no need to worry.

You know why? Because everyone was so wonderful.

First up we were talking about the saga that is occurring with YouTube at the moment. This whole ‘restricting’ LGBTQ+ content ultimately making it unavailable to audiences, the same way it’s unavailable to freely search for someone performing and act of something actually worth being restricted like, oh I don’t know, people actively showing abusive cases of homophobia. Totally mind boggling that these two acts fall under the same restrictions one being love and one being the hatred towards two people in love.

You know what made me feel better about this whole shit situation though? Comments from all of you guys, supporting and celebrating LGBT+ community. I mean only one comment pissed me off a little buuuuuut, I soon got over it because of the overwhelming group hug I felt I was getting from literally EVERYONE ELSE!

Throughout the chat people were giving their opinions and views on how to keep progressing with LGBT rights. How to keep moving forward for a brighter more rainbow filled future.

More than anything I want in the world, i just want plain old Equality. Pure and simple, and it was so so refreshing to see how many others were too campaigning and striving for the same.

Throughout the chat I did some internal ‘YES GIRL’ and ‘hallalujah’ praises to some people’s answers; for instance…


Sarah Jane @sarahjdocker made an excellent point, you’re literally stripping away role models for youths. You claim restrictions are for protection. I’d sure as hell feel more protected having someone to relate to when I feel all alone wouldn’t you?

These lovely ladies also brought up valid points about progression in the LGBT+ community and how we can continue to improve!


@naomindoll @following_lisa @megsiobhan @beautycreep )
I think that Katie said it best though,

@whiteaesthetix

We are the voices of the future. You are so right. Together we make changes, and educating ourselves on what we are fighting for and aiming towards is key.

Anyway I know this is very different from my usual posts but I wanted to get this out there.

So from the bottom of my little gay heart, I just want to thank you all for speaking out and fighting for myself and others right to love.

You can’t even imagine how loud your 130character tweets sound to me right now!

Danielle Jade.

Please let me know if you joined in the chat and how you felt about it!